“Relationships should draw you closer to Christ, not closer to sin. Don’t compromise to keep anyone, God is more important.”
Hey guys, it’s Allison. This time we’re going to discuss dating as a Christian. We all want that man of God or woman of God that the Lord has for us. I’m here to dig a little deeper into my past about my experiences with dating.
Firstly I want to clarify I have never had a boyfriend or my first kiss and I’m 21 going on 22. Now I don’t think not having those two things is a bad thing it’s just a little odd because the majority if not all of my friends have had boyfriends and their first kiss. My standards are set at a high level. Ladies if you have high standards keep them there do not bring them down and the same for the guys. Do not settle for less because I have and I’ve never dated anyone!
When I was in high school I liked some guys here and there but it never went anywhere. I did get ghosted and if you have been you know it is not fun. For me I really liked the guy that ghosted me and if I am being honest it messed up my trust issues. I’m not proud to admit that I have even ghosted people which I never did until it happened to me. I think it was out of fear of them doing it to me first or because I couldn’t communicate my feelings. We all make mistakes and we learn from them.
My first date didn’t take place until 2022 and it was a guy I had started talking to off of the dating app for Christians called Upward. Some of you may have heard of it. At first we hit it off, but I felt it was going to fast and the relationship was going to be long distance if we made it official. We never made it to a second date. The guy claimed to be a man of God, but in my opinion he was not. There were times when I was like woah that’s a little forward. I ended up taking a huge step back and we did not work out. Fast forward to a month later I went on a date with another guy that I met off of Bumble. Again I felt that it went too fast and I took a step back.
Dating can be scary and that’s okay. I learned that I wasn’t ready. Today I still wonder if I am ready. I’ve been on and off of the dating apps wondering if I should even be on them. There is guys I have hoped would stay in my life even as friends, but it never worked out that way. If someone is meant to be in your life they will be. It could be the right person and wrong time. Sometimes its both the wrong person and wrong time. Let me tell you this if God has someone for you he will not keep them from you forever. We don’t know God’s plan, but we have to trust him and his timing. It’s been over a year now and I am still single. I have not went on any other dates. I’ve talked to a couple of guys and it didn’t work out. I’ve been discouraged and I have cried. A lot. I struggle with being content in my singleness but I know it is all for a reason. If you’re like me you can’t wait to be in that Christ-centered relationship. We have to play the waiting game sometimes. It could be later today, tomorrow, next week, next month, or next year. Jacob waited a long time for Rachel. Fourteen whole years, can you imagine? We have to put our trust in the Lord and wait on his timing not ours.
Each day I pray for my future spouse and I encourage you to do the same if you don’t already. Pray for patience in both you and them. It could be a long wait or a short wait it all depends on where you are in your faith journey. Know that God will send him or her into your life when the time is right. He could be working on both of you or maybe there is something one of you needs to accomplish first. I know it will be hard because it is for me. I still struggle and you know what? It is okay to struggle. We won’t be stuck on the struggle bus forever. Take one day at a time and pray. You and I will get through all of our hardships together. You know why? There is only one correct answer and that is Jesus.